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Comments by the Author
| What Amish In The City Can Teach Us |
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| While watching the Amish in the City television series (which
aired in 2004), I realized how much in common I had with the 5 Amish (Mose,
Randy, Ruth, Miriam, Jonas) who starred in the series. I, as a teen, left the
Old Order Mennonites, a sister religion to the Amish, and write about my
experiences in my memoir, Rolling Down Black Stockings.
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| The following are my comments on the 9 episodes.
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| EPISODE 1 - Dressing Differently |
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Please visit the
Amish in The City official website
to view the official photo of the 5 Amish as they arrive at the LA (Los
Angeles) mansion in Amish dress. The first order of the day is for the City
Dwellers, the teens from the world who will be their constant companions
throughout the nine episodes, to take the Amish shopping for modern clothing.
On the following day the Amish wear their new clothes to a theme park, while
their City Dweller roommates wear the Amish clothing. They immediately notice
that others look at them differently, and it makes them feel uncomfortable and
unapproachable.
This different dress is of clothing design straight out of the past. It
effectively creates a wall of separation, as we see in the response by the City
Dwellers.
Once they put on their fancy clothing, one might think the two Amish girls would
appear timid and uncomfortable. Quite the opposite happens. The Amish girls
prance around wearing skimpy bathing suits and seemingly flaunt their new
freedom. I’d expect this to happen, for I did much the same. This
outward representation that you “fit in” with your new world gives you quite a
high.
Mose (one of the Amish boys) puts his life in danger as he overextends himself
in a swim in the Pacific Ocean. He’s simply attempting to “fit in” with his new
world.
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| EPISODE 2 - Pacifism and Non-Confrontation |
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In this episode Ruth (Amish) speaks up to Whitney (a female City Dweller), which
erupts into a shouting match. Since the world of Amish (Old Order Mennonite as
well) is one of non-confrontation and pacifism, Ruth's behavior seems quite out
of character.
Further complicating Ruth's situation is she was raised in a highly patriarchal
society that practices subjugation of women. Subjugation, in essence, means
taking a back seat to others and keeping your mouth shut as to your ideas and
needs. So I don’t get Ruth's verbal engagement with Whitney.
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| EPISODE 3 - Limiting One's Education |
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The Amish teens realize they are at a disadvantage because of lack of education.
In this episode, Jonas (Amish) studies for his GED exam, which will give him
the equivalent of a high school education. Amish limit education to the 8th
grade, and the teens question this. Rather than appearing angry about it,
however, they seem lost as to what might be the reason for it.
All five Amish in this television series are in Rumspringa, a time when an Amish
turns sixteen and is turned loose and free to experience the ways of the world.
It is when the Amish enters the world that he/she senses the need for
education. In actuality, an 8th grade education is adequate if one remains an
Amish.
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| EPISODE 4 - Bundling |
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Nick and Ariel (2 City Dwellers) cuddle in the bedroom overnight. However, the 5
Amish never mention that this smacks of bundling, which, undoubtedly, would be
familiar to them.
Bundling is when an Amish boy and girl of dating age go to bed for the night.
Supposedly, they are each wrapped in a separate sheet. Or supposedly a board is
positioned down the middle of the bed so they can't come in contact with each
other.
In Amish communities, things change very little from one generation to the next.
Parents, undoubtedly, did the same thing, so they know what’s going on. If a
pregnancy results, the bundling couple will have to get married. And to get
married means you have to join the church.
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| EPISODE 5 - Bickering |
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In this episode the Amish and City Dwellers bicker. One would think that
bickering flies against the peaceful nature we assign to Amish. But bickering
took place within my Old Order Mennonite community as well, and I detail
stories about this in my memoir.
When one joins the church, one promises to report transgressions of fellow
members. So the entire community becomes little police. Transgressions can
result in the severe punishment of shunning. I believe bickering also takes
place because one is required to walk such a narrow road.
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| EPISODE 6 - Experiencing Other Cultures |
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This episode has an international theme, and finds the group experiencing
Mexican, Middle Eastern, and Chinese cultures. The 5 Amish are wide open to
this mind-expanding experience. As a separatist religion/culture, children
learn practically nothing about other religions and cultures.
There is a joke that goes around about how a group of people were standing off
to themselves in heaven. When St. Peter was asked about this group, he said
they were Mennonites - but said don't go up to them and let them know you are
here - for they think they are the only ones in heaven.
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| EPISODE 7 - How to tell Amish and Old Order Mennonites Apart |
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Most people are stunned when I tell them there are more Old Order Mennonites
than Amish in Lancaster, PA. So when I give my little talks, I identify
pointers that one should look for to tell the difference. You should realize
that each community is under the control of a bishop, then preacher, then
deacon, and, therefore, it’s common to see small variations in dress. The
following is generally true:
The absolute quickest way to tell the difference is with the men. Old Order
Mennonite rules state their men must be clean-shaven. Amish rules state their
men must wear a beard after marrying. When you see a beard, you are
looking at Amish.
With the women, one quick way to tell is in the dress. If a girl or woman wears
a calico print, she will be Mennonite. Amish girls and women will always
be in solid color. Please see this website photograph in which I am in
Old Order Mennonite Dress (a
calico). Then take a look at the two girls in the
Amish in The City official website.
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| EPISODE 8 - Traveling to the Past |
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I like to think of Amish and Old Order Mennonites as time travelers when they
leave their religion for the world. In the first seven episodes, the Amish
travel to present-day life. Now it's time for the City Dwellers to travel to
the past. All prepare to visit Amish country in Ohio, where several of the
Amish teens are from.
The Amish teens are downright elated about having the City Dwellers experience
their life. But it never happens. Something very strange occurs in this
episode. In essence, the gate to their community is closed to the City
Dwellers.
The Amish teens don’t understand why their community has been so unreceptive to
their new friends. And the City Dwellers express disorientation and
bewilderment as to their Amish Country visit. But the separation necessary to
maintain life in the past has been preserved by the Amish elders.
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| EPISODE 9 - Will the Amish Return to Roots? |
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Mose has demonstrated exceptional musical abilities throughout the various
episodes. He wants to pursue a musical career, prefers country life to the big
city, so definitely plans to return to the country. He won’t rule out
eventually returning to the Amish.
Jonas passes his GED with a near perfect score. He now visits a college and
wants to attend, but won’t rule out eventually returning to Amish.
Ruth also visits a college and would like to go to nursing school. It depends
upon her boyfriend, however. If he goes back to Amish, she will return with
him. (She shows the submission she has learned growing up here.)
Miriam also visits a college. She will not return to the Amish just yet, wants
to see more of the world first, but she might return eventually.
Randy was in construction work before becoming a star in Amish in the City. He
plans to return to that work near an Amish community. He will return to the
Amish if he meets a nice Amish girl.
I believe Mose and Jonas will leave Amish, and the other three (Miriam, Ruth,
and Randy) will return. Mose and Jonas seem to have achieved a level of
individual identity needed to make self decisions. Miriam, Ruth, and Randy show
signs of allowing others to make decisions for them, so will return to Amish.
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Please contact me with any
questions or thoughts on my comments.
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